Things to do:
1. Call caterer to add butter chicken to menu as per Dadaji’s request
2. Tell tailor to add extra button to mom’s wedding blouse
3. Finalise flowers and colour scheme with decorator for the Mehendi
4. Ask Chachaji if his contact’s venue has come through for the Sangeet
5. Remember to tell the tailor to add extra margin in all bridesmaids and groomsmen clothes
6. Speak to Dad about deposit to the DJ for the cocktail
7. Tell to-be-hubby to get cracking on the Sangeet playlist
8. Ask sister to remind to be hubby about Sangeet playlist
And on and on it goes………
If you recognise the list above then there is no doubt that you are in the midst of or have very recently planned a big fat Indian wedding and if the tasks above are anything to go by then there is little chance that you’re willing to go through the entire gruelling process again anytime soon. Indian wedding planning taken on by well meaning friends and family was a frenzied reality of not too long ago and continues to be an Indian wedding tradition even today.
However, Big fat Indian weddings have now ushered in a trend of wedding planners and consultants that take on the burden of coordination with vendors, formulate new and innovative concepts and are on hand to assist the bride and groom with most of their needs and wants for the duration of the festivities. Although the keyword here remains ‘assist’ as most couples will still be running around like headless chickens trying to bring order within the chaos that is planning an Indian wedding. Those of you who have never experienced their own wedding or that of a sibling or best friend and are reading in wild amazement as to why exactly the couple needs to do anything at all when they’re paying a hefty sum to a wedding planner. The answer lies in the incredible need for new age couples to personalise and distinguish their own wedding from every other wedding ever attended by their friends and family. And if that isn’t stressful enough there is also the small matter of Indian wedding trends changing for bigger, better, brighter versions of themselves every few years.
Sonya and Kuljit Bains are two sisters who were undergoing similar dilemmas in 2010 during Sonya’s wedding planning. They started out with lists identical to the one above with every detail for everything and everyone crammed into one long unending line of numbers and over many pages long. As expected there was confusion and communication break downs galore thanks to the complete lack of any organisational system specially catered to planning an Indian wedding. Coordination with vendors, family members, wedding parties, in-laws and friends was a maze of incessant phone call, texts and emails as no planner in the market offered the ability to separate all the people, activities and functions involved in a big fat Indian wedding.
Few years later and this time for Kuljit’s upcoming wedding in 2016, the sister’s realised that absolutely nothing had changed in the offerings for planners for Indian weddings. They did find some that offered large portions for vendors but minimal pages dedicated to actual planning. It was the perfect time to set about creating their own Indian wedding planner to make things as easy as possible for already stressed out brides.
After months of hard work and commitment to ensure that nothing was left out they unveiled Every Fine Detail in July 2015. The aptly titled and first of its kind Indian wedding planner includes everything from pages dedicated to schedules, budgets, floor plans and tailoring to emergency wedding kits making it a little piece of organisational heaven. While the planner is by no means a substitute for a professional wedding planner or consultant it does give the bride the freedom to trash those countless notebooks, scribbled pieces of paper and post-it notes stuck everywhere.
Every Fine Detail was launched online to a roaring response with brides ordering the planners for themselves or friends and family surprising future brides with the planner as pre-wedding or engagement gifts. The Indian wedding planner has also found takers in places like England, Toronto, California, New Zealand and many more. The sisters were even invited to a wedding expo organised by Big Phat Indian Weddings last October where in addition to setting up a booth to showcase their product to future brides, the planners were also given away as door prizes.
As an ecstatic future bride and user of Every Fine Detail put it:
“I absolutely love it. I carry it around with me all the time. If I am in the midst of contacting/booking a vendor, I can pull out my book and jot down any notes needed. It helps keep me super organised and I like that all the information that I need is all in this one book!”
As they say the proof is in the pudding or in this case the organisational marvel born out of the necessity of two enterprising sisters. I’ll definitely be ordering one of these for myself and my soon to be wed friends. Now only if the small matter of tracking down Mr. Right and getting him to put a ring on it was made so easy!